This book is, without question, the most thorough and insightful resource I’ve found on attachment theory. It contains detailed summaries of the past 50 years of research with thorough overviews of the strengths and weaknesses of each study.  This is where I first encountered both the Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (IPF) and the framework for healthy attachment that I refer to as The Five Pillars of Attachment.
Both of these frameworks deeply inform my teaching and guidance with clients.

In this video, Daniel P. Brown leads a brief IPF meditation—a powerful visualization practice rooted in attachment theory that helps rewire the nervous system by consistently providing the experiences of safety, attunement, and unconditional delight that may have been missing in early caregiving. I refer to this protocol frequently in my work because it's one of the most effective tools I’ve found for fostering internal security and building the foundation for healthy adult relationships.

I often reference Lisa Feldman Barrett and her conclusions in this book because it fundamentally reshaped my understanding of emotional life. Barrett challenges the classical view that emotions are hardwired and universal, proposing instead that emotions are constructed by the brain in the moment, using past experiences and cultural concepts . This theory of constructed emotion has profound implications for how we understand ourselves and others, and it deeply informs my approach to attachment, trauma, and emotional healing.​

This is one of the top 5 most important books of my life! Glover exposes the hidden patterns of the "Nice Guy Syndrome"—men who suppress their needs, avoid conflict, and seek approval in an attempt to be loved and accepted. Glover reveals how these behaviors are often rooted in childhood experiences and unmet emotional needs, and he provides a clear, actionable path toward greater authenticity, self-respect, and emotional integrity. This book is a wake-up call for anyone trapped in people-pleasing patterns, and a powerful guide to reclaiming agency and cultivating healthier relationships.
Absolutely eye-opening about my own patterns that contributed to so many relationship problems in my life.

A free reading of this book, available on YouTube

I haven't read this one yet, but it is one of the only books that Jim Hopper has co-authored and I'm looking forward to it.

A compelling and accessible exploration of testosterone’s powerful influence on human biology and behavior. Blending scientific research with personal stories and cultural analysis, Hooven explains how this hormone shapes traits like aggression, competitiveness, sex drive, and physical development—particularly in men—while addressing common myths and political sensitivities around gender and biology. The book ultimately argues that understanding testosterone is essential to making sense of sex differences and the often fraught conversations around them.

I haven't actually read this book yet.  I've just consumed probably 20+ hours of podcast interviews with Dr. Matt and he never fails to impress and inform.  I'm posting this book here for people who prefer reading to watching interviews like the one below.

Another one that is still sitting on my to-be-read list,  I have listened to many interviews Dr. Schore and they never fail to impress and educate.  I'm looking forward to getting this book consumed, along with his other title Affect Regulation and the Origin of Self

I really liked the way he humanized addiction through these raw, personal stories. I loved how he didn’t just explain the neuroscience and early attachment stuff, but really emphasized compassion without sugarcoating the pain. It gave me some new language and perspective on how trauma and addiction interact, especially in people who’ve been completely discarded by society.

I can't even remember how I was introduced to the Tao, but once I heard the first stanza there was something about it that drew me in.  There was obviously something there, but it evaded understanding by limited mind.  I kept mulling over the passages again and again, back and forth until I would have these "aha!" moments.  I devoted a year of my life to study the mere 81 stanzas of this work.  I was forever different after that.
The Tao Te Ching, is not a religious text (in my opinion), it is a tool for reshaping the mind and how we live in this world.

Filled with very real (and challenging) observations and practical exercises and challenges that might rock you to your core, this incredible work by Susan Campbell was immediately loved by my men's group and the lessons are something that we often refer to when holding each other to account.
If you have never heard of this, or participated in Authentic Relating events, please give it a shot, it might just change your life.